Something Has Happened to You
Or to someone you love.
I am sorry. I want to say that before I say anything else, because you have probably heard a great many words since it happened and most of them were not much help.
You may have been told that they are in a better place, as though that settles it. That everything happens for a reason. That God needed another angel. That it has been a while now, and it might be time.
None of that is Scripture. Some of it is not even true.
What is true is that you are carrying something heavy, that it is heavier than people around you seem to understand, and that you are wondering whether the way you are grieving is wrong somehow. It is not. But almost no one has ever been taught what the Bible actually says about this, so grief arrives and finds us with nothing prepared.
That is what this course is for. Not to hurry you. Not to fix you. To walk with you, with Scripture open, at the pace this actually takes.
Why I Teach This
In 2005, my heart stopped. I was gone for more than thirty minutes, and in that time I met Jesus Christ face to face. I did not go looking for that experience and I kept quiet about it for fourteen years.
What I can tell you from it is that the people who belong to Him are not gone. They are not asleep in some vague sense, not diminished, not far away. The place is real, they are more themselves there than they ever were here, and the reunion Scripture promises is not a comfort story we tell at funerals.
I know that firsthand. I also know it from the other side of my work.
Since going public, I have interviewed more than six hundred people who died, encountered God, and came back. I share those testimonies on the YouTube channel Heaven Encounters, which now reaches more than 336,000 subscribers and has been viewed over 100 million times. Many of them saw people they had buried.
But here is what I will not do with any of that.
I will not use it to shorten your grief. Knowing where someone is does not make you miss them less, and any teaching that treats heaven as a reason you should be over it by now has misread both heaven and grief. Jesus stood outside the tomb of a friend He was about to raise, and He wept anyway. He knew exactly what was coming in four minutes, and He wept anyway.
Hope does not cancel sorrow. It keeps sorrow from having the last word. Those are different things, and this course is built on the difference.
Introducing Grieving With Hope
Grieving With Hope: A Christian Path Through Loss is a five-module course, twenty-five lessons, anchored module by module in Scripture rather than in the grief frameworks you may have encountered elsewhere.
It is honest about how long this takes. It is honest about the temptations that come with long grief, and about the comforts that promise relief and deliver damage. It is equally honest about the hope, which is specific, physical, and coming.
Each module includes five teaching videos, a printable workbook with reflection pages and exercises, a tear-out reference card, and a short assessment. Much of the real work happens in the workbook, with a pen in your hand, rather than on the screen.
What’s Inside
Module 1 - The Permission to Grieve · 1 Thessalonians 4:13
Paul does not tell the Thessalonians to stop grieving. He tells them not to grieve as those who have no hope, which assumes they will grieve. We go to Lazarus and to the shortest verse in the Bible, and we establish four permissions most Christians have never been given. If you have been carrying shame about the way you are grieving, this module is where you set it down.
Module 2 - The Language of Lament · Psalm 42:11
God gave His people a vocabulary for exactly this, and the church has largely forgotten it. The lament psalms, Job, and Lamentations, examined for what they actually permit you to say out loud. Then you write your own lament. Not a pretty prayer. The real one. That exercise is the turning point of the course for many students.
Module 3 - The God Who Meets Us in Grief · 2 Corinthians 1:3–4
Where God is when you cannot feel Him. The Father of mercies and God of all comfort. The Son in Gethsemane, sorrowful unto death. The Spirit who intercedes when you have no words left. The Man of Sorrows who is acquainted with grief, not theoretically.
This module also gives you the six-step Drawing Near practice — what to do when the wave hits at three in the morning. It comes as a card you keep.
Module 4 - The Long Road · Lamentations 3:22–23
Grief does not resolve on schedule, and the five-stages model you have heard was never written about the bereaved in the first place. Anniversary grief. The full constellation of secondary losses, with an inventory to work through. The four temptations of long grief — bitterness, isolation, despair, self-pity — named plainly, along with the false comforts that numb, distract, or harden. The module closes with specific losses treated one by one from Scripture: spouse, child, parent, divorce, a prodigal, and the future you thought you were going to have.
Module 5 - Walking Together and Walking Forward · Revelation 21:4
How to be present to someone else’s grief without making it worse, including the What to Say and What Never to Say reference card, which students tell me they hand to their whole family. Then the hope, in detail: the resurrection of the body, the reunion, and the losses that were never deaths at all, answered in the new heavens and the new earth. The final lesson takes stock of the whole journey and sends you out with three commissions.
Each module closes with a written integration statement you complete and keep. The five build toward a closing statement that finishes the course.
Who This Is For
This course is for you if:
✦ You have lost someone, and the words people offered did not reach where the loss actually is.
✦ You are grieving a loss that was not a death - a marriage, a child who has walked away, a body that no longer works, a life you were counting on.
✦ Years have passed and it still catches you, and you have started to wonder whether something is wrong with you.
✦ You want to be useful to someone who is grieving, and you are afraid of saying the wrong thing.
✦ You believe in the reunion, and you need help holding that hope and your sorrow at the same time.
This course is not for you if:
✦ You want the pain shortened by argument, or a five-step process that gets you to the other side by a fixed date. Grief is not a problem to be solved. It is a road, and this course walks it with you.
A word of care before you enroll.
This course is not a substitute for the body of Christ, for a pastor who knows your name, or for professional help. If you are in crisis right now, please reach out for immediate support today rather than working through a course. The materials point to help where it is needed, and asking for it is not a failure of faith.
Who I Am
I’m Randy Kay. In 2005, I died, and I met Jesus. I waited fourteen years before I spoke about it publicly.
Since going public, I have hosted Heaven Encounters, the first YouTube channel dedicated exclusively to Christ-centered near-death testimonies. More than 336,000 people follow that work, and the interviews have been viewed over 100 million times. I have personally interviewed over six hundred near-death experiencers, and a great many of those conversations have been with people describing a reunion.
I am an ordained pastor and the author of Heaven Stormed, the account of my own encounter, and of Heaven Encounters: 140 Near-Death Experiences Revealing the Afterlife (Charisma House). I lead Randy Kay Ministries, and I founded My Family Worldwide, a fellowship that now spans more than one hundred nations. Before ministry, I served as a Fortune 100 executive and as CEO of a biotechnology company. I hold a business degree from Northwestern University.
None of that qualifies a man to teach on grief. What qualifies anyone is having sat with people in it, hundreds of them, and having refused to hand them anything that was not true.
What You Will Walk Away With
By the end of Grieving With Hope, you will:
✦ Know what Scripture actually permits and expects of you in grief, and be free of the shame of grieving wrongly.
✦ Have a biblical language for saying the honest thing to God, including the things you have been afraid to say.
✦ Hold a practice you can use in the worst hour of any night, for the rest of your life.
✦ Recognize the temptations and false comforts of long grief before they take root.
✦ Know how to be present to another person’s sorrow without wounding them.
✦ Carry a hope specific enough to stand on: not that it will stop hurting, but that every tear has an expiration date set by God Himself.
Enrollment
$97
One-time enrollment. Lifetime access. Learn at your own pace.
Frequently Asked Questions
How soon after a loss should I take this course?
There is no correct answer, and no one should give you one. Some students begin within weeks. Others come years later because something surfaced that they had buried. You have lifetime access, so you can start, stop, and return whenever you are able.
How long does it take to complete?
Five modules of five lessons each. Most students take five to eight weeks, and many take longer on purpose. Nothing here rewards speed.
Does the course tell me I should be over it by now?
No. Module 4 exists specifically to dismantle that idea, including the popular stage models that were never written about grieving people to begin with.
My loss was not a death. Does this apply?
Yes. Divorce, estrangement, a prodigal child, infertility, a diagnosis that ended the life you planned. Module 4 addresses several of these directly, and Module 5 carries them into the hope.
Is this counseling?
No, and it is not offered as a replacement for it. This is biblical teaching with practical exercises. If you are working with a counselor or a pastor, this course sits alongside that well, and several counselors use it with the people they serve.
I want to help someone who is grieving. Is this course useful for me?
Very. Module 5 is built for exactly that, and the reference card on what to say and what never to say is the single most-shared item in the course.
Will you be teaching the material personally?
Yes. I teach every video lesson myself.
Do I have to do the workbook?
You do not have to do anything. But the workbook is where the course actually works — the lament you write, the inventory you complete, the statements you sign are the parts students still have years later.
One Last Thing
At the very end of the Bible, after everything else has been said, God makes a promise that is not abstract.
He will wipe away every tear from their eyes.
Not explain them. Not justify them. Not tell you they were never worth crying. He will come close enough to touch your face, and He will wipe them away Himself, one at a time, because He has been keeping track of every one of them since the day this started.
That day is coming. Until it does, there is a way to walk this road that does not require you to pretend, and does not leave you without hope.
Grieve with hope. Walk with the grieving. Look for the morning.
Let me walk it with you.